I am not an expert in relationships, this is just my personal opinion. I honestly feel there are so many ridiculous relationship misconceptions out there.
So like we all know, there is no manual for matters of the heart. At the same time I want to just point out some misconceptions I have heard people talk about and find very untrue.
1. COUPLES ARE SUPPOSED TO ALWAYS FIGHT
You can have arguments once in a while. But if there is so much fighting going on, it does not mean you guys are “ride or die” couples. I think it means there is a lot of disrespect going on in the relationship. And from what I have seen, excessive fighting drains mentally and takes away the love, if there is still any left.
So I think you should really reevaluate your relationship, if you are always fighting with your partner.
2. WOMEN JUST NEED MONEY TO BE HAPPY
I hear some men say this a lot. But we have seen women leave billionaires because they were unhappy, so uncle Afeez how much is in your account? I can’t stress this further, money can’t buy happiness.
3. IF IT IS MEANT TO BE, IT WILL BE.
This one is laughable. I mean some people actually think wonderful relationships just happen because it was meant to be. You know, because it was written in your destiny.
Well I don’t think it works like that.
4. NO ONE IS THAT HAPPY IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP
If you believe this, I think you have really been through a lot. But I bring good news, this is false.
Many couples are happy in their relationships. It’s only the aeroplanes that crash we hear about in the news, we usually don’t hear about how many others landed safely.
5. THERE IS NO BIG DEAL ABOUT BEING CLOSE TO YOUR EX
There is a reason things didn’t work between both of you. I honestly think this is disrespectful. Whether you agree with me or not, if you are still close with your ex, you still have feelings for them.
6. YOUR PARTNER SHOULD NEVER GO THROUGH YOUR PHONE
Only a cheat says this. Quote me, I said what I said.
7. KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP PRIVATE IS THE BEST WAY
Being private doesn’t guarantee anything at all. Same as going public.
But of course, we have people who are very private in general. And it is very okay if you want to keep your love life private but it surely doesn’t mean it is the best way.
8. CHEATING IS NOT A BIG DEAL
This is a big deal, so many things are involved in this one. The last thing anyone wants is a cheating partner. Don’t deceive yourself.
9. APOLOGISING IS ENOUGH
Apologising is not enough, you should also it follow it up with corrective actions. “I am sorry” becomes an insult if the person is not following it up with a better behaviour.
10. SEX IS VERY IMPORTANT
Sex is great in a relationship but a lot thing comes way before sex in a relationship. You don’t need me to state them for you, you know this. Sex is the icing on the cake not the cake itself. And if your cake is solely just icing someone is going to die of diabetes pretty soon.
11. WHEN YOU GET MARRIED ALL OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS GOES AWAY.
12. DON’T EVER TELL PEOPLE THAT YOUR PARTNER MALTREATS AND ABUSES YOU
I have heard this statement in several variations. Some people feel it is good to hide these things so that people won’t talk and mock you. But I disagree. If you don’t talk about it and bottle all these things, one day you are going to implode and guess what? people will mock you for being a pretentious hypocrite.
Get help if you are going through any form of abuse from your partner. Hiding things doesn’t do anything but make you hate yourself everytime you cover-up for that person.
You can add any other relationship misconceptions you have heard, in the comment section.