Getting your heart broken is inevitable, it happens to even the very best of us. Regardless of the degree or extent, you need to dust yourself up and move on.
I don’t consider myself to be overly religious so I won’t tell you to listen to ‘excess love’ by Mercy Chinwo on repeat and then give you inspirational quotes to heal your broken heart.
Instead, I would rather share some easy tips on getting over the whole drama pretty quick.
1. DONT LOOK FOR CLOSURE:
The only closure you should search for is frontal for your weave-on.
It has ended, period. You may think explanations from the other party will make it easier. But the truth is, there is never ever a good explanation. So don’t go looking for closure, it will only get you more involved again and make it longer for you to heal.
2. DON’T BE IN DENIAL:
You can cry if you want. It’s really okay to hurt. Don’t bottle up your emotions and act all cool like it was nothing. The high time you deal with those emotions the best for you.
3. STAY AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA:
This is to prevent you from over-sharing the story of your life on the platform.
It’s really not a good time to start posting “men are scum” on Twitter or “men are not worth it, you only have yourself”, “women ain’t shit”, “Bros before hoes”….or worse, dragging and trolling the person online, posting nudes and hurtful comments and the likes.
It won’t get you any empathy, it will only say a lot about why you were dumped in the first place.
4. BLOCK THEM:
You can block them from your Snapchat, Instagram and WhatsApp until you are sure, you are really over the heartbreak. Why? The reason is because, most times you may feel compelled to put up a front so that the other party doesn’t think you are still sulking.
So you may find yourself putting up a fake-happy moved on life, just so your ex can see it and maybe want you back.
You honestly don’t need that kind of pressure.
5. YOU CAN HAVE A REBOUND IF YOU WANT:
This is very selfish I must say, using someone else to get over your hurt. But I think a rebound is okay if you make sure the other party understands the situation, to avoid breaking someone else’s heart.
6. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND:
You may want to talk to friends and family about how hurt, devastated and hopeless you feel. But don’t forget to speak to yourself.
Ask yourself honest questions, were you really happy with them? what exactly is making you feel so much hurt? Do you deserve better? Why are you afraid of starting over? What would you have done differently?
Evaluating yourself inwardly will help you heal faster.
7. TAKE YOUR TIME:
You don’t have to move into another relationship immediately. Take your time with the next person.
Why do you really want to be with them? Are you just lonely? Do you want to get back at your ex? Are you in love?
Make sure your reasons are genuine.
8. GO OUT:
Don’t fold up yourself under the blankets all day, acting like someone who has just been diagnosed with a life threatening disease.
Meet up with friends, hang out, have a drink with colleagues. The distraction will do you some good.
9. GET INVOLVED IN SOMETHING:
It could be a hobby, a project, work or just a new exercise routine. Putting more hours into another venture will help get your mind off your ex and help you achieve some sort of satisfaction. You kill two birds with a stone that way.
10. OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND:
Delete old pictures, get rid of their clothes and voice notes. You don’t want to be reminded of some memory you once shared and start tearing up again in your pillow.
Finally, I just want you to know that regardless of what you have invested in that relationship, you owe yourself a lot better.
I hope these few tips really helps. You can add more suggestions in the comment section.