I would like to state that I am not an authority in psychology or behavioral science. What I am about to put down is solely based on my opinion, which of course, makes it open to constructive criticism.
Last month, I wrote something about about fighting depression and having a reason to celebrate. Click here to check it out.
Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. –—MentalHealth.gov
Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence to adulthood.
And, the home plays a vital role in either providing a conducive and stress/pressure- free environment to enable and build a strong and healthy state of mind, or create a choking and exasperating template for depression.
Believe it or not, for many African children their first bullies were their parents. The first time someone talked down on them or told them their feelings weren’t valid was in the home. The first time they were told they weren’t good enough or someone else was better was in their home and from people they loved.
Many African parents have a hard time processing their emotions and communicating how they feel to their children. Advice or guidance are sometimes dished with derogatory remarks which, unfortunately, ends up creating some sort of hostility between parent and child instead of bringing about changed behavior.
By the time the child reaches adolescence or adulthood and is faced with bigger problems, it becomes difficult to share their struggles and pain because they feel no one would understand. Being unable to deal with the problem and having no non-judgemental person to talk to may lead to anxiety, depression and in worst case scenarios self-destruction.
It is important to note, that the children who we constantly dismiss and invalidate their opinions today are likely to become adults who will find it difficult to express themselves without being timid, unsure, aggressive or belligerent.
At the end of day, everyone needs to protect their own mental health by stepping away from negative energy.
I am here to tell you that it’s perfectly okay to cut off family members that constantly make you feel worthless. Save yourself and your mind first, the rest of the world can wait.
Have a great weekend!
I am spending my Saturday cleaning and tidying up my apartment. It’s been a messy week.
So, what are you up to?
“Home is where you feel loved, appreciated and safe.”
P.S: I think you may find this article on parenting helpful —>Parenting Tips (Mental Health)