Happy Eid-el Kabir celebrations to my Muslim brothers and sisters all over the world.
I am so happy about the holidays and today was some sort of movie day for my family. We all sat down to binge watch movies together, gist and have fun.
Well, we had a lot to say and argue about one particular Nollywood movie we watched. You know the usual story:
Poor girl meets two boys,
The two boys are in love with her,
One is rich but she doesn’t love him,
And the other is poor but she loves him,
Who should she go for?
This scenario comes in different variations but it still comes down to the classic money vs love debate.
The Money Vs Love Debate
This debate has gone on for centuries and will still go on in the next millennia to come and beyond. The house was wild with hot takes from everyone. From my folks who have been married for 35+ years to my baby brother who had no idea what the whole fuss was all about.
Anyways, I decided to bring the debate here. And I personally think the money vs love debate is a tricky one. They are both very important for a healthy marriage but the consistency of any of the options cannot be guaranteed by any means.
All it takes is just one or several bad situations to turn a millionaire into a destitute and lovebirds into hyenas.
Marriage is a freaking long time to be with someone who doesn’t have your back like you have theirs. The loss of a child, sickness, bad investments, debt, etc. These things have the capacity to shake everyone to their barest core.
It’s a crazy debate but this is my take:
I would definitely go with a partner who loves me as much as I love them, regardless of our financial state, over someone who can make my life more comfortable but I don’t have any love in my heart for them.
I know living comfortably is such a great thing to pass off but what happens when he can no longer afford the ‘comfortable’ lifestyle?
I would like to hear your thoughts on the money vs love debate.
P.S: The movie director made it easy for ‘poor girl’ to choose at the end by making the poor guy wealthy later on. I and my baby brother were absolutely rooting for love.
P.S.S: Money and Love are/should not be the only factors to consider in marriage. There are other things to also look out for, such as detrimental habits (Alcoholism, womanising, chain smoking, drug addiction, over-spending, gambling etc.) , character/personality (Are they hardworking, honest, level-headed, respectful, kind, trust-worthy, eager to help, forgiving etc. ?) and so on.