Dating in the 21st Century

“We are living in a generation where people ‘in love’ are free to touch each other’s private parts but are not allowed to touch each other’s phones because they are private.”

— Robert Mugabe

I like to call my generation — the crackheads generation. Whatever we lay our hands on we consume excessively and get addicted in no time. From sports to entertainment, and from alcohol to hard drugs and sex, the list is endless.

In this millennium, dating and love are also approached from the crackhead perspective.

  • Right after falling in love we feel euphoric or have an inflated sense of self
  • Then the burst of energy occurs almost right away, we want to see or talk to them every day.
  • Increased rate of breathing — we can’t wait to get under the sheets with them.
  • We are very focused at first — doing and saying all the right things.
  • Dilated pupils — you can see the love in our eyes.
  • Insomnia — We don’t mind depriving ourselves of good sleep because of the intense midnight conversations.

And when the giddy feeling wears off because of certain hiccups or maybe we aren’t feeling the love again, we start experiencing.

  • Mood swings.
  • Amplified aggression or volatile behavior.
  • Paranoia
  • Obsessive desire to smoke crack — We want to walk out and fall in love again.
  • Rinse & Repeat.

My generation is interested in instant gratification, no time for the long runs. You know, life is too short and you only live once so we have to shove everything and anything down our throats at once, to feel happy at the moment.

We don’t understand investment or saving or low-risk ventures. We love taking high-end risks and getting a kick out of it, we don’t look we just leap, just like crackheads.

No one wants to be the nerd that wants to cultivate something meaningful by choosing to take their time, or has only one partner and is faithful in love when there are so many exciting options out there. People have become very much disposable and online dating has made it worse. All you have to do is swipe left on your mobile device and have as many picks as you want on tinder.

It’s crazy to try and work out differences, we don’t have time for that. If you are not looking the way we want or acting the way we want, we will replace you in a heartbeat. Did I say replace? You were probably no. 8 on the list anyway.

Cheating is super cool for single folks these days. “Don’t expect any commitment until we are married” is the new millennial rule. As if, the marriage certificate comes with a commitment installation.

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Pursuing friendship before the relationship is so outdated. That phenomenon is now called friend-zoning, right now being diagnosed with cancer is way better than getting friend-zoned. We are not interested in being friends with people we want to be in a relationship with. We see you today, and the next day we should already be in a relationship professing all the I love you and I can’t live without you to each other.

Saying those magic words automatically makes everything great or that’s what we think. We have fast become love junkies who need hookups to survive.

Hence, relationships now come in different labels because we don’t want to be alone and yet we can’t seem to make things work.

So, we have:

  • Casual relationships
  • Dating but seeing other people
  • Living-in relationships
  • Situationships
  • It’s complicated
  • I-don’t-know-how-to-tell-them-I-am-no longer-interested-ships.
  • Friend with benefits
  • Sex buddies
  • Etc.

The truth is, we have lost it.

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.

13 thoughts on “Dating in the 21st Century

    • Ria's Haven says:

      There are still a great deal of people who truly understand what it means to build a relationship but I am afraid, the douchebags are definitely in the majority.

      We all just have to be careful and learn to walk away from the ‘crackheads’.

      Thank you for stopping by.🤗

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  1. Sharon Peters says:

    This is such an honest point of view of what I agree on calling ‘dating in the crackhead generation’ I will also like to add that shamefully I am guilty of how addictive and deflating it all becomes for us..

    Great post 💛
    (I had an ‘Euphoria’ vibe when I clicked on this post. Do you by chance watch it?😀)

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  2. Nigerian Patriot says:

    Like you said ‘we’ have lost it’. Call it modernization, I call it madness. Regardless what anyone says, human emotions are wired the same from time immemorial till now. A relationship is a process that is based on friendship, loyalty, romance, patience, understanding, and all the norms that are normal. There are no shortcuts; plain and simple. Until we understand this fact, we will all continue to complain.
    Your post is a clear indication that you understand life differently from the rest, so I wish you all the best in any endeavor tagged a relationship.
    Stay safe always Ria.

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